What Influence Do Others Have on Your Shadow
Do you truly know yourself?
What influence have others had on your shadow?
Why has it happened?
From infancy and through childhood and adolescence we pick up from our parents/caregivers both conscious and unconscious messages about what is acceptable in terms of our body, our feelings and our behavior. All that is unacceptable is suppressed and repressed and becomes part of our shadow. We not only take in and repress what is unacceptable, we also internalize our carers’ attitudes to these unwanted qualities and characteristics of ourselves. The harsher the attitude, which may have been expressed by withdrawal of love, rejection, physical/emotional/sexual abuse, the more hostile we are to these facets of our shadow. At worst, the shadow becomes inextricably entwined with abandonment anxiety so that its emergence can really feel like a matter of life or death. Again, though, it is necessary to emphasize that positive, loving feelings fantasies and impulses can become as much part of the shadow as negative hostile ones.
http://www.thesap.org.uk/
You can't keep feeding or ignoring your shadow, this is where all self healing can begin.
What influence have others had on your shadow?
Why has it happened?
From infancy and through childhood and adolescence we pick up from our parents/caregivers both conscious and unconscious messages about what is acceptable in terms of our body, our feelings and our behavior. All that is unacceptable is suppressed and repressed and becomes part of our shadow. We not only take in and repress what is unacceptable, we also internalize our carers’ attitudes to these unwanted qualities and characteristics of ourselves. The harsher the attitude, which may have been expressed by withdrawal of love, rejection, physical/emotional/sexual abuse, the more hostile we are to these facets of our shadow. At worst, the shadow becomes inextricably entwined with abandonment anxiety so that its emergence can really feel like a matter of life or death. Again, though, it is necessary to emphasize that positive, loving feelings fantasies and impulses can become as much part of the shadow as negative hostile ones.
http://www.thesap.org.uk/
You can't keep feeding or ignoring your shadow, this is where all self healing can begin.
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