Free Yourself From What's Not You

 Many times in our life we feel lost, weak, disappointed, and hesitant. We go through each day almost without thought, one day just blends into the next. Our minds are not connected to our inner soul. If your waking up everyday feeling like an elephant is on your chest, you just can't get a breath of fresh air, your home life feels empty, and you're dreading the day.  You may not identify that it's time for a change yet, as the miserable days stack up, months turn into years. Now you've lost yourself, the situation is sucking the life out of you. This is all brought on by not identifying with yourself, and staying in situations that make you feel outside of yourself. The inside turmoil and stress take a toll on both your mental, and physical health. It goes against human nature to do things that just aren't you. After years of stress due to not being yourself now you realize you want yourself back. It seems easy enough, and yet how do you just stop doing what doesn't resonate with you. We all have obligations to others and yet the first obligation should be you. 

 First step is to de stress, take time to just sit back, relax, and center yourself. In the quiet moments make a list of everything that isn't you. Just write down whatever comes to mind, and what word describes the emotion. Each day brings opportunity to change. In life it's hard to make abrupt change, so for example you know your not working at a job that makes you happy, try to identify your passion. Next step, do some research about the occupation and what it would take to make a change. You can take night or weekend classes for college training if needed. If you've always wanted to sell your delicious cupcakes, and your a great baker start a side business, take some business classes, and do it part time until you have enough sales to quit the job that's sucking the life out of you.

If you lost yourself in a relationship identity why. Two becoming one in a relationship is natural and yet this is where the trouble begins. Make sure not to lose yourself and at the same time maintain the loving balance between the two of you. Identify when you lost your identity as "self". At what point did you stop doing things you love? Is it your significant other that lead you astray or is it something deep seeded within your soul. Remember they fell in love with you, you became two afterwards. It will take soul searching to find yourself, pray, meditate, do contemplative writing. Who were you before? What dreams and aspirations did you have? 

Daily life is a beautiful and blessed, don't lose yourself along the way. Start a new path today.